Comments on: I have been home-schooled all of my life, but my dad is sending me to a public school? http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school Fri, 10 Feb 2012 12:37:33 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Barb http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3621 Barb Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:26:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3621 Please take some time and check out information about so-called *socializing* at www.NHERI.org. I'm not sure what are all of the dynamics in your home. Is your mother there? Is your father a single parent? I have hundreds of questions. Does your father realize that there are BETTER ways to have positive contact with a wide variety of people? I am not one to tell a child to go against the parent --- so I'm having a hard time with this one. I would much prefer that it were your father asking the question. Please print out all of the answers that you receive and read through each one. Show them to your Dad. If you are in an academic slump and your father is worried about it --- you need to find a way to improve your study habits. If you are not in a situation where you have regular contact with other people I would suggest that you pursue group activities. Please do your very best to remain respectful and obedient to your father. At the same time --- try to talk to him about the options. If he needs someone else to be there for you he can find other home-school parents that will be happy to supervise your studies. There are academic co-ops, gym groups, sports teams, church things, etc. etc. etc. I can't imagine anyone having a real lack of appropriate social contact. You should be able to find more than enough. IF you do end up in public school PLEASE learn to avoid bad situations --- RUN from them. But, seek out good, healthy, honest friends. Focus on studying to do your very best. Build your future by being a good student. Maybe by your diligence your father will see the good in studying at home. Dont' get caught up in the fads of common social situations. Don't accept the drugs, the sex, the booze --- it will be in your face often. Learn to say NO and mean it. Each of those things kills people every day. I for one do not care for the public school mind-set. Children tend to forget to do what is right and instead "go with the crowd". It will be up to you to be independent and self-controlled. You might want to ask him in a letter.... Sometimes parents see questions as "disrespect" of their wishes. But either way ask him what in his mind are the best social advantages to public school and what are the worst disadvantages. PLEASE TELL YOUR DAD TO TALK TO OTHER PARENTS! HE CAN EMAIL ME. There are dozens of websites about home-schooling --- go to as many as you can and print out the most important information. If your Dad is a Christian it will make a lot of sense to him to learn that children deserve the best chance to become fine, upstanding, smart citizens --- they should be untouched by the bad junk in this life -- most of that junk gets a hold of young lives in Jr. High and High School. I hope this helps to keep you in home-school. Pray, pray and pray!!!!! And always do your best to be the best that you can be.<br><b>References : </b><br>Check out the information at: www.NHERI.org www.HSLDA.org www.OCEANetwork.org www.robinsoncurriculum.com Please take some time and check out information about so-called *socializing* at http://www.NHERI.org.

I’m not sure what are all of the dynamics in your home. Is your mother there? Is your father a single parent? I have hundreds of questions.

Does your father realize that there are BETTER ways to have positive contact with a wide variety of people?

I am not one to tell a child to go against the parent — so I’m having a hard time with this one. I would much prefer that it were your father asking the question.

Please print out all of the answers that you receive and read through each one. Show them to your Dad.

If you are in an academic slump and your father is worried about it — you need to find a way to improve your study habits.

If you are not in a situation where you have regular contact with other people I would suggest that you pursue group activities.

Please do your very best to remain respectful and obedient to your father. At the same time — try to talk to him about the options.

If he needs someone else to be there for you he can find other home-school parents that will be happy to supervise your studies. There are academic co-ops, gym groups, sports teams, church things, etc. etc. etc. I can’t imagine anyone having a real lack of appropriate social contact. You should be able to find more than enough.

IF you do end up in public school PLEASE learn to avoid bad situations — RUN from them. But, seek out good, healthy, honest friends. Focus on studying to do your very best. Build your future by being a good student. Maybe by your diligence your father will see the good in studying at home. Dont’ get caught up in the fads of common social situations. Don’t accept the drugs, the sex, the booze — it will be in your face often. Learn to say NO and mean it. Each of those things kills people every day.

I for one do not care for the public school mind-set. Children tend to forget to do what is right and instead "go with the crowd". It will be up to you to be independent and self-controlled.

You might want to ask him in a letter…. Sometimes parents see questions as "disrespect" of their wishes. But either way ask him what in his mind are the best social advantages to public school and what are the worst disadvantages.

PLEASE TELL YOUR DAD TO TALK TO OTHER PARENTS! HE CAN EMAIL ME.

There are dozens of websites about home-schooling — go to as many as you can and print out the most important information. If your Dad is a Christian it will make a lot of sense to him to learn that children deserve the best chance to become fine, upstanding, smart citizens — they should be untouched by the bad junk in this life — most of that junk gets a hold of young lives in Jr. High and High School.

I hope this helps to keep you in home-school.
Pray, pray and pray!!!!! And always do your best to be the best that you can be.
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Check out the information at:
http://www.NHERI.org
http://www.HSLDA.org
http://www.OCEANetwork.org
http://www.robinsoncurriculum.com

]]> By: penguins_rock34 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3620 penguins_rock34 Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:10:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3620 i was home-schooled from k-6th and i am in high school right now. public highschool isn't that bad. it's definitely different than homeschooling, but you get used to it. bullying doesn't happen all that much. it's nothing to really worry about. it's kinda hard, but no harder than the work you would get while being home-schooled. as for physical fights, none have ever happened at my school. as long as you don't say anything to anger anyone, you should be perfectly fine. good luck with public school.<br><b>References : </b><br> i was home-schooled from k-6th and i am in high school right now. public highschool isn’t that bad. it’s definitely different than homeschooling, but you get used to it. bullying doesn’t happen all that much. it’s nothing to really worry about. it’s kinda hard, but no harder than the work you would get while being home-schooled. as for physical fights, none have ever happened at my school. as long as you don’t say anything to anger anyone, you should be perfectly fine. good luck with public school.
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]]> By: mamaDee http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3619 mamaDee Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:35:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3619 Every person's experience is different when entering the public system late. It depends on the school, and it depends on you. If you have a lot of inner strength and have learned to accommodate others without compromising who you are, you will be fine. The first few days are always awkward...you feel like you stick out like a sore thumb...but that passes, and you soon start to adapt. The hardest things for me (entering public school in grade 10) were learning how to accept other people's views as different from my own, and learning how to interact with teachers. I had been around other kids in their homes or mine before, so I knew how to relate to them. What I didn't anticipate was the level of independence the teachers expected of me. What I didn't realize was that they were preparing us, not only for college, but also for the work force. It is important to pay attention to their instructions the first time, and to learn to figure it out for yourself. That's not to say you can't ever ask for help, but the teacher cannot offer you one-on-one supervision the whole day long! And they probably won't chase you down the halls saying "remember you have that essay due tomorrow!" Also, at first, I felt it was important for me to voice my opinion whenever it was different from the majority. Sometimes that's good, but sometimes it's wise to let others be diffrerent from you! You get labelled as a narrow-minded know-it-all pretty quickly if you won't let others be themselves! Treat their views with the same respect you expect for yours! The most valuable quality you can learn before you get there is diplomacy! I know loads of homeschooled kids, having been one myself, and this is something each and every one of us struggled with! One last note to make you feel good...my sister started public school at 13 (grade 8) and she recently graduated in the top ten of her class (she and all her friends made up that group.) She is socially well-adjusted and her employer really likes her.<br><b>References : </b><br>And remember: the "coolest" kids in school are NOT the most well-liked! Every person’s experience is different when entering the public system late. It depends on the school, and it depends on you. If you have a lot of inner strength and have learned to accommodate others without compromising who you are, you will be fine. The first few days are always awkward…you feel like you stick out like a sore thumb…but that passes, and you soon start to adapt. The hardest things for me (entering public school in grade 10) were learning how to accept other people’s views as different from my own, and learning how to interact with teachers. I had been around other kids in their homes or mine before, so I knew how to relate to them. What I didn’t anticipate was the level of independence the teachers expected of me. What I didn’t realize was that they were preparing us, not only for college, but also for the work force. It is important to pay attention to their instructions the first time, and to learn to figure it out for yourself. That’s not to say you can’t ever ask for help, but the teacher cannot offer you one-on-one supervision the whole day long! And they probably won’t chase you down the halls saying "remember you have that essay due tomorrow!"

Also, at first, I felt it was important for me to voice my opinion whenever it was different from the majority. Sometimes that’s good, but sometimes it’s wise to let others be diffrerent from you! You get labelled as a narrow-minded know-it-all pretty quickly if you won’t let others be themselves! Treat their views with the same respect you expect for yours! The most valuable quality you can learn before you get there is diplomacy! I know loads of homeschooled kids, having been one myself, and this is something each and every one of us struggled with!

One last note to make you feel good…my sister started public school at 13 (grade 8) and she recently graduated in the top ten of her class (she and all her friends made up that group.) She is socially well-adjusted and her employer really likes her.
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And remember: the "coolest" kids in school are NOT the most well-liked!

]]> By: Karen http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3618 Karen Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:11:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3618 I would try not to worry. I would assume you are probably going to a decent school. Most schools are fairly safe and in a good neighborhood. The ones where you get bullied and in fights would be more likely to be in a large city in a high-crime neighborhood which you probably don't live in. Also, guys tend to get more in physical fights, while girls either don't fight or at the most might just call each other a name or two, like witch or something. Nothing you couldn't handle. And just by reading your post, you sound like somebody that doesn't sound like you'll be stirring up trouble, so you probably will be avoiding fights and not starting them it sounds like. I never was in a fight in my life in public school for example. I'm sure you'll be fine!!! Re: the work, it was not that hard, but my niece that just graduated a few years ago says it is much harder and she does have much more over the weekends. Sorry about that!!! Not hard, just time consuming!!!<br><b>References : </b><br> I would try not to worry. I would assume you are probably going to a decent school. Most schools are fairly safe and in a good neighborhood. The ones where you get bullied and in fights would be more likely to be in a large city in a high-crime neighborhood which you probably don’t live in. Also, guys tend to get more in physical fights, while girls either don’t fight or at the most might just call each other a name or two, like witch or something. Nothing you couldn’t handle. And just by reading your post, you sound like somebody that doesn’t sound like you’ll be stirring up trouble, so you probably will be avoiding fights and not starting them it sounds like. I never was in a fight in my life in public school for example. I’m sure you’ll be fine!!!

Re: the work, it was not that hard, but my niece that just graduated a few years ago says it is much harder and she does have much more over the weekends. Sorry about that!!! Not hard, just time consuming!!!
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]]> By: NuncProTunc http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3617 NuncProTunc Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:36:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3617 Think of it as Harry Potter going to Hogwarts-you will thank your Dad -every change is stressful at first but learning how to handle stress is a major part of life. Try to find an activity you enjoy-a sport,the band, Spanish club, whatever-it will help make a school within a school.<br><b>References : </b><br> Think of it as Harry Potter going to Hogwarts-you will thank your Dad -every change is stressful at first but learning how to handle stress is a major part of life. Try to find an activity you enjoy-a sport,the band, Spanish club, whatever-it will help make a school within a school.
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]]> By: Prof. Black http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3616 Prof. Black Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:12:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3616 Your father loves you very much to be making this change. He cares enough about your future to allow you to mature socially and establish guidelines for your success. I realize a lot of people here want to urge you to leave the school systems because they fail you. Fact is the reason the schools are failing is because the very parents who run from the problem are unwilling to step up and demand those schools clean up. It will be tough for about a month to six weeks adapting to a new environment. This adaptation period though will help prepare you for future challenges. Don't let the "sky is falling" crowd scare you. They make their living bashing others in an effort to justify their questionably flawed system. Added: Note as this topic continues the Home School crowds intolerance of answers that disagree with them leads to the plethora of thumbs down. Most of these people are zealots and should be ignored.<br><b>References : </b><br> Your father loves you very much to be making this change. He cares enough about your future to allow you to mature socially and establish guidelines for your success. I realize a lot of people here want to urge you to leave the school systems because they fail you. Fact is the reason the schools are failing is because the very parents who run from the problem are unwilling to step up and demand those schools clean up.

It will be tough for about a month to six weeks adapting to a new environment. This adaptation period though will help prepare you for future challenges. Don’t let the "sky is falling" crowd scare you. They make their living bashing others in an effort to justify their questionably flawed system.

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Note as this topic continues the Home School crowds intolerance of answers that disagree with them leads to the plethora of thumbs down. Most of these people are zealots and should be ignored.
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]]> By: Yo! http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3615 Yo! Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:36:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3615 Don't be scared. You will be fine. It is true that there are some bullies in school. That doesn't mean it will necessarily happen to you. It is also true that there are sometimes physical conflicts in school. Again, this is not necessarily going to happen to you. I believe homeschooling is best, but that doesn't mean that you will not succeed in public school. Just because you haven't been to school before doesn't mean you will be a misfit. I would not go around advertising to the other kids that you have been homeschooled...some people just like to pick on you for any reason...and word travels fast in school. You will not be in any tougher position than new students who just moved to the area and don't know anyone. Go in and be yourselves! You will do great! Good luck!<br><b>References : </b><br> Don’t be scared.

You will be fine.

It is true that there are some bullies in school. That doesn’t mean it will necessarily happen to you.

It is also true that there are sometimes physical conflicts in school. Again, this is not necessarily going to happen to you.

I believe homeschooling is best, but that doesn’t mean that you will not succeed in public school. Just because you haven’t been to school before doesn’t mean you will be a misfit.

I would not go around advertising to the other kids that you have been homeschooled…some people just like to pick on you for any reason…and word travels fast in school.

You will not be in any tougher position than new students who just moved to the area and don’t know anyone.

Go in and be yourselves! You will do great!

Good luck!
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]]> By: Melissa C http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3614 Melissa C Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:49:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3614 I am sorry that you have to go of to public school, I don't know your situation, but you have to honor your parents no matter what. It really depends on the school as far as what you experience. I am sure there will be some kids that are ignorant but hopefully as many that will be friendly. Just focus on the positive and don't try to impress anyone. Be yourself! If you want to "wear a skirt to your ankles" you should BTW. Don't change who you are to to fit in to any crowd. There are resources on the web you could look up and present to your parents about the myths and studies done on socialization and how Home Schooled students actually excel. You could present that to them respectfully, but the bottom line is you must do what they say. Edit: I have been busy today, but I did remember this report I read you may be interested in: http://www.cbc.ca/news/viewpoint/vp_ekoko/20061002.html Otherwise, just do a search using "Home Schooling and socialization" It addresses a lot of the Myths scientifically. Make sure you are involved in sports, clubs and civic activities and assure your father you will continue to be. OH, I have no idea whether "Prof Black (or whatever his name is) is for real, but if he is he is obviously bitter or ill educated in the Home Schooling topic. It doesn't take a professor to do a little research. The few kids he MAY (if that’s even true) be basing his opinions on are not enough to prove something. Good Luck<br><b>References : </b><br>Home School Mom Many Reports Common sense I am sorry that you have to go of to public school, I don’t know your situation, but you have to honor your parents no matter what.
It really depends on the school as far as what you experience. I am sure there will be some kids that are ignorant but hopefully as many that will be friendly. Just focus on the positive and don’t try to impress anyone. Be yourself! If you want to "wear a skirt to your ankles" you should BTW. Don’t change who you are to to fit in to any crowd.
There are resources on the web you could look up and present to your parents about the myths and studies done on socialization and how Home Schooled students actually excel. You could present that to them respectfully, but the bottom line is you must do what they say.

Edit:
I have been busy today, but I did remember this report I read you may be interested in:
http://www.cbc.ca/news/viewpoint/vp_ekoko/20061002.html

Otherwise, just do a search using "Home Schooling and socialization" It addresses a lot of the Myths scientifically. Make sure you are involved in sports, clubs and civic activities and assure your father you will continue to be.
OH, I have no idea whether "Prof Black (or whatever his name is) is for real, but if he is he is obviously bitter or ill educated in the Home Schooling topic. It doesn’t take a professor to do a little research. The few kids he MAY (if that’s even true) be basing his opinions on are not enough to prove something.
Good Luck
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Home School Mom
Many Reports
Common sense

]]> By: ♥dancergirl♫ ♥ http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3613 ♥dancergirl♫ ♥ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:22:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3613 my friends older brother went to public high school and he loves it!!!!<br><b>References : </b><br> my friends older brother went to public high school and he loves it!!!!
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]]> By: Yep-itsMe http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school/comment-page-1#comment-3612 Yep-itsMe Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:38:59 +0000 http://www.soominkim.com/public-school/i-have-been-home-schooled-all-of-my-life-but-my-dad-is-sending-me-to-a-public-school#comment-3612 I beg you to please PLEASE ask your parents to get the book, "Safely Home", by Tom Eldredge, from http://www.visionforum.com/ . It's only $10 and worth every penny (and so much more!). Review: "The choice has always been knowledge or relationship. Which is more important? In Safely Home, Tom Eldredge shows how this was the original conflict in the Garden, a clash that would later be the dividing line between Greek (humanist) and Hebrew (biblical) worldviews. Mr. Eldredge offers practical and biblical hope for those dads who put relationships first and who dare to go safely home." Please, have your parents get that book BEFORE sending you to public school! Please! Addition: I'm sorry, I should have addressed the issue about respecting your parents. That's a must. You respect them no matter what. If they keep you homeschooled, respect them. If they send you to public school, respect them. Don't let public schools influence you in negative ways and turn you away from the teachings of the Bible (if your a Christian that is). Melissa C is right on! (2 answers below.) I don't know who this "Prof. Black" guy is, but he doesn't have a clue what he's talking about, and I think you'll understand that being homeschooled yourself. :) He's out raiding the homeschooling section trying to convince everyone that homeschooling is terrible when he doesn't even know what he's saying!! Who are children supposed to be socializing with? Godly family and friends or 30 children their age that have dirty mouths, can't behave, don't have any respect for anybody... Scripture says that it is the parents responsibility to train up their children. I don't understand why so many people think it's necessary to give up the right and the joy of being able to raise their children for the sake of "socializing". But, like I said already, please ask your parents get that book, and respect their every decision. God Bless!<br><b>References : </b><br> I beg you to please PLEASE ask your parents to get the book, "Safely Home", by Tom Eldredge, from http://www.visionforum.com/ . It’s only $10 and worth every penny (and so much more!).

Review:

"The choice has always been knowledge or relationship. Which is more important? In Safely Home, Tom Eldredge shows how this was the original conflict in the Garden, a clash that would later be the dividing line between Greek (humanist) and Hebrew (biblical) worldviews. Mr. Eldredge offers practical and biblical hope for those dads who put relationships first and who dare to go safely home."

Please, have your parents get that book BEFORE sending you to public school! Please!

Addition:

I’m sorry, I should have addressed the issue about respecting your parents. That’s a must. You respect them no matter what. If they keep you homeschooled, respect them. If they send you to public school, respect them. Don’t let public schools influence you in negative ways and turn you away from the teachings of the Bible (if your a Christian that is).

Melissa C is right on! (2 answers below.)

I don’t know who this "Prof. Black" guy is, but he doesn’t have a clue what he’s talking about, and I think you’ll understand that being homeschooled yourself. :) He’s out raiding the homeschooling section trying to convince everyone that homeschooling is terrible when he doesn’t even know what he’s saying!!

Who are children supposed to be socializing with? Godly family and friends or 30 children their age that have dirty mouths, can’t behave, don’t have any respect for anybody…

Scripture says that it is the parents responsibility to train up their children. I don’t understand why so many people think it’s necessary to give up the right and the joy of being able to raise their children for the sake of "socializing". But, like I said already, please ask your parents get that book, and respect their every decision.

God Bless!
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